I am really upset with my supervisor and also glad that I am planning on moving to another city soon. I have worked part time at this job for 2 years. I only get one 8 hour shoft and then fill in for the full time people. I was a little upset when they hired another part time person but realize that they probably needed to because there are some shifts I can't cover.
Then last night I came into work and there was a note from my boss that there was a new person starting and to tell her my supervisor would be there at 11:30 to train her. When the new person gets there I start talking to her. Curious why they hired yet another part time person. They don't need someone to fill in enough to have 3 part time people. It turns out one of the full time people is going to part time and this person was hired to work 24 hours a week that the full time person used to work. My supervisor never told me that this person was going to part time and to see if I wanted any of her hours. I can't believe she wouldn't check with me before hiring someone else. She knows that I work any extra shift I can and that I need more hours. The least she could have done was have the courtesy to see if I wanted the newly available hours.
Saturday, January 26, 2008
Sunday, January 20, 2008
This weekend...
was tiring but for the most part satisfying. I got a lot accomplished. Thursday night I cleaned the house for 3 hours and got a lot of it done. Dan didn't help and I got really mad at him. We talked about it for a long time and we will see what happens from here. I just feel like I am the only one that takes on the day to day responsibilities for our family. I stuck to what I said though and didn't ask him to help clean. I have thought about it and I think that is the best way to handle it. I do my part and it is up to him to take the initiative to contribute as well. I was amazed on how much more I got doen when I just focused on cleaning and didn't divert energy trying to get him to help.
I worked 8 hours Friday and 12 Saturday. I was really tempted to call in for part or all of my shifts because I didn't want to work. I rarely call in but it was so tempting though so I could have an entire weekend free, I am glad I didn't though because we need the money. The worst part is I got off at 11 p on Friday and had to be back at 7 a on Saturday. I don't like short turn around like that.
It was strange driving myself to work because usually Dan always drives and because I am never by myself usually. There is always someone around here-my mom, Dan, or Bunny. The sometimess my ex-stepdad pops in too. I used to be really independant and like (and really need) time on my own. I have found as I have gotten older that I really like being with people a lot more. Sometimes I wish I could get away more but usually I enjoy them. When I got off of work on Saturday I had some time by myself since Dan was playing Starfleet Battles at a friend's house.
I stayed at work for awhile and enjoyed talking to one of my co-worker's. After that I got dinner, chocolate cake, and a couple of movies to enjoy. It was kind of nice getting a little time to myself. I watched Georgia Rule and Step Up. The basic story idea for Georgia Rule but the acting and movie wasn't that good. There are several other movies like Step Up but it was still a good movie. I would love to learn hip hop dancing. Maybe someday I will get brave and find a place to take lessons.
This morning I went out to breakfast with my mom which was nice. I love the omlettes at IHOP-yummy! I spent most of the day relaxing and being lazy. I was so excited about the finale of Amazing Race tonight. I was glad that TK and Rachel won. They were definately my favorite team. I cleaned some more tonight and walked for 40 minutes on the treadmill. I have been lazy about excercising and I need to really commit to losing weight. I seem to be able to accomplish things in other areas of my life but losing weight seems to be the hardest thing for me to do.
Dan did get up to help clean tonight. I was a little miffed at first because I cleaned for an hour before he got up to help. I figured he just got up to do it because I was starting to look mad. I went to take a bath to see if he would still clean even if I wasn't cleaning with him. To my suprise he did and got a lot done in Bunny's room. I am happy that he did some and hope he will continue to. This is one of the biggest problem areas for us.
Since I have complained about Dan I wanted to brag on him some to. When I got up at 5:45 on Saturday for work he got up with me. He could have just slept but he didn't. Instead he immediately made coffee and asked what I wanted for breakfast. He also made sure there was no ice on the car and packed a lunch for me. That made my morning go so much easier and I appreciated it so much!
Time for bed. Bunny comes back from her Dad's tomorrow morning. Yay!
I worked 8 hours Friday and 12 Saturday. I was really tempted to call in for part or all of my shifts because I didn't want to work. I rarely call in but it was so tempting though so I could have an entire weekend free, I am glad I didn't though because we need the money. The worst part is I got off at 11 p on Friday and had to be back at 7 a on Saturday. I don't like short turn around like that.
It was strange driving myself to work because usually Dan always drives and because I am never by myself usually. There is always someone around here-my mom, Dan, or Bunny. The sometimess my ex-stepdad pops in too. I used to be really independant and like (and really need) time on my own. I have found as I have gotten older that I really like being with people a lot more. Sometimes I wish I could get away more but usually I enjoy them. When I got off of work on Saturday I had some time by myself since Dan was playing Starfleet Battles at a friend's house.
I stayed at work for awhile and enjoyed talking to one of my co-worker's. After that I got dinner, chocolate cake, and a couple of movies to enjoy. It was kind of nice getting a little time to myself. I watched Georgia Rule and Step Up. The basic story idea for Georgia Rule but the acting and movie wasn't that good. There are several other movies like Step Up but it was still a good movie. I would love to learn hip hop dancing. Maybe someday I will get brave and find a place to take lessons.
This morning I went out to breakfast with my mom which was nice. I love the omlettes at IHOP-yummy! I spent most of the day relaxing and being lazy. I was so excited about the finale of Amazing Race tonight. I was glad that TK and Rachel won. They were definately my favorite team. I cleaned some more tonight and walked for 40 minutes on the treadmill. I have been lazy about excercising and I need to really commit to losing weight. I seem to be able to accomplish things in other areas of my life but losing weight seems to be the hardest thing for me to do.
Dan did get up to help clean tonight. I was a little miffed at first because I cleaned for an hour before he got up to help. I figured he just got up to do it because I was starting to look mad. I went to take a bath to see if he would still clean even if I wasn't cleaning with him. To my suprise he did and got a lot done in Bunny's room. I am happy that he did some and hope he will continue to. This is one of the biggest problem areas for us.
Since I have complained about Dan I wanted to brag on him some to. When I got up at 5:45 on Saturday for work he got up with me. He could have just slept but he didn't. Instead he immediately made coffee and asked what I wanted for breakfast. He also made sure there was no ice on the car and packed a lunch for me. That made my morning go so much easier and I appreciated it so much!
Time for bed. Bunny comes back from her Dad's tomorrow morning. Yay!
Friday, January 18, 2008
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Thursday, January 17, 2008
60/100
Roles
One thing that really bothers me is the difference between what women are expected to do versus men. There are so many demands placed on most women it is no wonder that in all the women's magazines they have articles about how to deal with being stressed and tired.
The majority of women are expected to work outside the home, cook and clean, take care of their children, take their children to various activities, and be a good wife including being sexy and seductive for their husband. You can't fully dedicate yourself to a full time job AND be the perfect mother. I know a lot of women that do an admirable job caring for their children and working but I see how worn down and tired they are. Most bosses don't understand needing to take off from work if your child is sick. I understand that they need their employees at work but it places women in an uncomfortable place. I almost got fired when I was a retail manager because my daughter was in the hospital and I called in to work because I needed to be there with her. I have consciously made the choice that my daughter comes first. Yes, we need a roof over our heads and food but I do what I need to to take care of her.
I think if a couple chooses to have a child then one person needs to stay at home or work part time so they can take care of the needs of the family. If you choose to have a family they need to be taken care of. If a couple doesn't have children I think it is great for women to strive to have a successful and full career. Or if they have a family it is great if the woman wants to work and the man wants to be the care taker for the family. Taking care of a family is a full time job. I know a lot of people think you need 2 incomes to survive and things are expensive. But how much do we really need? A lot of people work hard so they can have cars and houses that are bigger than we really need. We think we need tons of clothes and possessions. I think if people cut back and really think about what they need and their priorities they might discover they can make it on 1 income or 1 income with the other person working part time.
I admit I sometimes get caught up in wanting more things and buying more than I need. Since I took my daughter out of daycare I have realized how much I really like being there to raise her and care for her. We have grown so much closer with all the time we spend together. Our relationships with family and friends is what really nurtures us-not having the latest toy or clothes. Sometimes it is a struggle with me to realize this and think about how much I really do need materially. I admire the simple way the Amish live. I don't agree with all of their beliefs but I think they have the right focus. This year I want to really try and continue to live more simply and with the correct family focus so we continue to grow and thrive.
The majority of women are expected to work outside the home, cook and clean, take care of their children, take their children to various activities, and be a good wife including being sexy and seductive for their husband. You can't fully dedicate yourself to a full time job AND be the perfect mother. I know a lot of women that do an admirable job caring for their children and working but I see how worn down and tired they are. Most bosses don't understand needing to take off from work if your child is sick. I understand that they need their employees at work but it places women in an uncomfortable place. I almost got fired when I was a retail manager because my daughter was in the hospital and I called in to work because I needed to be there with her. I have consciously made the choice that my daughter comes first. Yes, we need a roof over our heads and food but I do what I need to to take care of her.
I think if a couple chooses to have a child then one person needs to stay at home or work part time so they can take care of the needs of the family. If you choose to have a family they need to be taken care of. If a couple doesn't have children I think it is great for women to strive to have a successful and full career. Or if they have a family it is great if the woman wants to work and the man wants to be the care taker for the family. Taking care of a family is a full time job. I know a lot of people think you need 2 incomes to survive and things are expensive. But how much do we really need? A lot of people work hard so they can have cars and houses that are bigger than we really need. We think we need tons of clothes and possessions. I think if people cut back and really think about what they need and their priorities they might discover they can make it on 1 income or 1 income with the other person working part time.
I admit I sometimes get caught up in wanting more things and buying more than I need. Since I took my daughter out of daycare I have realized how much I really like being there to raise her and care for her. We have grown so much closer with all the time we spend together. Our relationships with family and friends is what really nurtures us-not having the latest toy or clothes. Sometimes it is a struggle with me to realize this and think about how much I really do need materially. I admire the simple way the Amish live. I don't agree with all of their beliefs but I think they have the right focus. This year I want to really try and continue to live more simply and with the correct family focus so we continue to grow and thrive.
The Fly In The Ointment
My husband and I have a great relationship. The most consistent problem we run into is housework. I get tired of being the responsible one who either cleans everything or has to nag other people to help. If I ask my husband to help he will except he is usually playing a video game and wants to wait until after he finishes to do whatever I asked. The problem? He usually forgets by then that I even asked anything. Or it takes so long that if I've asked him to take out the trash I have no where to put the trash from me making dinner. So now when I ask something I ask again if he doesn't do it in a couple minutes. I hate nagging and I know it isn't reasonable to not give him longer to do something. But from experience I know if I don't ask in a couple minutes and keep doing that-it won't usually get done. He teased me about nagging last night and how I am if he doesn't jump up and do something right away.
I don't like nagging. I feel it puts us more in a mom/child role the way I ask instead as equal partners. I am just tired of always being the responsible one that keeps things running and gets things done around here. My husband is a wonderful partner except for this issue and maybe 1 or 2 very small other things. He plans fun suprises for me and Bunny. He makes little scavenger hunts and buys my favorite things as little suprises when he goes to the store. He is thoughtful and very supportive. I hate this issue being such a big issue.
What I keep coming back to every time I get mad at him for this is that I should just take on the housework myself. If he helps that is nice but otherwise I will just do it. I have never actually done this because I don't think it is fair for me to do everything. It is where we both live and both make messes so we should work together to clean. However, I have decided that I don't want to let this issue come between us. Everything else isn't working and our relationship is great in other ways. I would rather clean myself and treat my husband with respect and not nag or boss him. So I am going to give this a try and see how it works...
I don't like nagging. I feel it puts us more in a mom/child role the way I ask instead as equal partners. I am just tired of always being the responsible one that keeps things running and gets things done around here. My husband is a wonderful partner except for this issue and maybe 1 or 2 very small other things. He plans fun suprises for me and Bunny. He makes little scavenger hunts and buys my favorite things as little suprises when he goes to the store. He is thoughtful and very supportive. I hate this issue being such a big issue.
What I keep coming back to every time I get mad at him for this is that I should just take on the housework myself. If he helps that is nice but otherwise I will just do it. I have never actually done this because I don't think it is fair for me to do everything. It is where we both live and both make messes so we should work together to clean. However, I have decided that I don't want to let this issue come between us. Everything else isn't working and our relationship is great in other ways. I would rather clean myself and treat my husband with respect and not nag or boss him. So I am going to give this a try and see how it works...
Wednesday, January 16, 2008
Changes
I feel like right now I am making a big leap between 2 cliffs and hoping I land safely on the other side. I know moving is the right thing for us but there are so many things that need to be done between now and April when we leave. The biggest being convincing my ex that this is the best thing or at least convincing him enough that he doesn't take me to court.
Tomorrow I will be mailing him the letter saying that we are planning to make the move. I have no idea how he will respond. The move is only an hour away so he will still get his visitation time with her. He just hates that I have any control or when I make any decisions. Then I have the 30 day wait to see if he files anything officially with the court to try and stop the move. I am banking on the fact that he will probably be too lazy to check out what he needs to officially do in response and that he is trying to move out of his parents and will be too focused on that to do anything about our move.
It is so frustrating trying to work things out with an ex. Especially one as unreasonable as mine. I try to make decisions with him and do what we are supposed to. I have researched and considered schools for hours trying to make an informed decisions. His only input is that he wants her to go to the small private school we went to and that he wants me to pay basically all of the tuition with my child support and tax refund. He didn't even look to see how much tuition is there-it goes up to 4,500 a year! That is not the only reason I don't want her to go there. If a school had the best education for her I would try to find a way for her to go. The school I want her to go to offers lots of great classes among other things. The only reason he wants her to go is because it is Christian. He could care less what they offer educationally and socially as long as it is Christian. You have to look at the whole picture not just the religion. Like I told him she can go to church and go to other Christian things to meet her spiritual needs.
Beyond trying to convince him I am also concerned about finding a job there which is one of the most crucial things to our plan. I don't think it will be hard to get a job there but I want to get one before we move there. Then I would have to make a long commute every day. So finding just the right timing to get a job there is a big concern. I am bored with my job here and I am looking forward to finding a new job. I am just trying to decide if I should stay in the same career as I am now. I like dispatching but I am wondering if I am just bored with where I work now or if it is time for me to move on to something else.
I have so much on my mind it is no wonder I have been feeling so run down and tired.
Tomorrow I will be mailing him the letter saying that we are planning to make the move. I have no idea how he will respond. The move is only an hour away so he will still get his visitation time with her. He just hates that I have any control or when I make any decisions. Then I have the 30 day wait to see if he files anything officially with the court to try and stop the move. I am banking on the fact that he will probably be too lazy to check out what he needs to officially do in response and that he is trying to move out of his parents and will be too focused on that to do anything about our move.
It is so frustrating trying to work things out with an ex. Especially one as unreasonable as mine. I try to make decisions with him and do what we are supposed to. I have researched and considered schools for hours trying to make an informed decisions. His only input is that he wants her to go to the small private school we went to and that he wants me to pay basically all of the tuition with my child support and tax refund. He didn't even look to see how much tuition is there-it goes up to 4,500 a year! That is not the only reason I don't want her to go there. If a school had the best education for her I would try to find a way for her to go. The school I want her to go to offers lots of great classes among other things. The only reason he wants her to go is because it is Christian. He could care less what they offer educationally and socially as long as it is Christian. You have to look at the whole picture not just the religion. Like I told him she can go to church and go to other Christian things to meet her spiritual needs.
Beyond trying to convince him I am also concerned about finding a job there which is one of the most crucial things to our plan. I don't think it will be hard to get a job there but I want to get one before we move there. Then I would have to make a long commute every day. So finding just the right timing to get a job there is a big concern. I am bored with my job here and I am looking forward to finding a new job. I am just trying to decide if I should stay in the same career as I am now. I like dispatching but I am wondering if I am just bored with where I work now or if it is time for me to move on to something else.
I have so much on my mind it is no wonder I have been feeling so run down and tired.
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